Today I have a very long list of things to accomplish. But I don’t want to start, thus I blog. Its much more fun to sign on here and write about nothing, than to dig in and clean my filthy house. For all of you waiting on updates about Derick’s deployment, we won’t know anything probably at least until he goes to drill in a week and a half. And, this month he has to go back to Fort McCoy, WI so he will be gone all weekend again.
We are in the midst of our first week of summer break. I think I love it more than the kids do. And we really haven’t done anything yet. I’m finding it very difficult to stay in my usual routine of getting up at 5am to read my Bible and pray. The good news is that Derick and I are getting up together at least by 6 and spending a little time together praying. Rachel gave us a book we are going through from Family Life Today that is very helpful. Actually, we traded books. We, for some reason, had 2 copies of “Love and Respect” and she and Isaac had 2 copies of “Moments with You”, so we traded and now we have one of each. Its very helpful for us though, because even though we like to read our Bibles and pray together, we have a hard time discussing anything. This book gives us a topic to discuss that relates to our family and our kids. It is making us more proactive, or at least think more proactively about how we want to raise our kids and how we want to be involved in their lives. We want to guide them in life, not just let life happen to them. We want them to avoid the mistakes that we made. Between the 2 of us we made some doozies! But, hopefully we have learned enough to show our kids how to avoid those. I guess their decisions are ultimately up to them but I don’t want to ever look back and be forced to say, “If I had only told them about this area of my life, they might not have made that choice.”
Kids, unfortunately, don’t come with an owners manual. I guess that’s ok, because there could never be one generic manual for all kids. Each one is so different. The closest thing there is, would be my Bible. Sometimes it feels like so much work to really find out how God wants us to act in a certain situation with our spouse or our children, and even more work to actually carry it out. And, what will work for one child, probably won’t work for another because they all have such completely different personalities. So, how do I handle things like “not picking up your toys”. Christian’s reason would be that he genuinely didn’t think about it or just got sidetracked and did something else. Aida’s reason would be because she didn’t want to do what I asked her to do, probably because I asked her to do it. Same offense, different motivation, therefore it needs to be different consequences.
I am intrigued to see what kind of personality our new baby will have. How will his attitude about “picking up your toys” be different from the other three? How will I approach this little boy as compared with the other 3? I think in different ways, parenting gets easier and harder as you get older and more experienced. I have certainly learned from the things that I didn’t do early on, especially with Christian. I think the best thing I ever did for him was get married and give him siblings! But he was already 3 when that happened, and so I felt like I was 3 years behind on some of his training. So, of course, with Aida, I started much earlier, and even earlier with Allyn. Now I am realizing that some child training has to begin pretty much at birth because their personalities are set in the womb and if you don’t get a handle on somethings now, you never will.
Well, the little rascals are all awake now so I guess I better stop. Good day to you all! And happy child-rearing to all (3 of) my parent readers.